Discover the Enneagram

The Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-discovery and a system of self-awareness that can lead to profound personal growth, greater empathy for others, and a more fulfilling life. It is a system of human personality which consists of nine distinct types. Each type has its own unique patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving.

Here are some practical ways to use the Enneagram:

1. Self-Understanding and Personal Growth

  • Identify Your Type: Start by taking a reliable Enneagram test or reading about the nine types to determine your type. Reflect on your core motivations, fears, and desires. The Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI) is a popular choice and you can find more information about this test here.
  • Self-Reflection: Use your type’s description to understand your strengths and weaknesses. Journaling can help in exploring how your type manifests in daily life.
  • Growth Paths: Each type has specific growth paths. Work on integrating the positive traits of your type and overcoming its challenges.

2. Improve Relationships

  • Understanding Others: Learn about the types of people close to you. Understanding their core motivations can improve empathy and communication.
  • Conflict Resolution: Use the Enneagram to identify underlying issues in conflicts. Different types have different conflict styles and resolution strategies.
  • Enhance Communication: Tailor your communication style to resonate with different types, fostering better understanding and cooperation.

3. Professional Development

  • Leadership: As a leader, understand your leadership style and how it impacts your team. Recognize the strengths and potential blind spots of your type in a leadership role.
  • Team Building: Use the Enneagram to build balanced and cohesive teams. Knowing the types of team members can help in assigning roles and responsibilities that play to their strengths.
  • Workplace Dynamics: Improve workplace relationships by understanding the dynamics of different types. This can enhance collaboration and productivity.

4. Parenting and Family Dynamics

  • Parenting Style: Understand your parenting style and how it affects your children. Recognize their types to better support their development.
  • Family Relationships: Use the Enneagram to navigate family dynamics, understanding how different types interact and how to resolve conflicts.

5. Spiritual Growth

  • Spiritual Practices: Each type has unique spiritual gifts and challenges. Engage in practices that align with your type to deepen your spiritual journey.
  • Inner Work: Use the Enneagram for inner work, exploring the deeper aspects of your personality and integrating them for holistic growth.

If you have questions about the enneagram or wish to arrange a personality session, I am very happy to help. 

Finding the Boon of Your Adventure

Every adventure, big or small, holds a boon—a unique gift that enriches your life and contributes to your growth. If you are setting out on an adventure this summer (or even a family vacation) it is wise to be thinking about the boon. The first step to discovering the boon is to embrace the journey itself. Approach your adventure with an open heart and a curious mind. Whether it’s a new job, a creative project, a travel experience, or a personal challenge, see it as an opportunity for growth and learning.
Stay Present

Take mindfulness breaks. I find that practicing a bit of mindfulness while on the road helps to keep me present. My practice is to offer kindness to my fellow travelers or adventurers. I like to help those who are perhaps a bit more frustrated than me, more travel weary or less able to navigate their new environment. These small acts of kindness help me to become more present during my adventure. I stop to connect with folks and get curious about why they are at this particular place with me. Being present throughout your adventure allows you to fully experience and appreciate each moment. Mindfulness helps you notice the subtle shifts, the small victories, and the lessons that might otherwise go unnoticed.Identifying the Boon

Look for the specific gifts or insights you’ve gained. What new skills have you developed? What personal strengths have you uncovered? How have your perspectives shifted? Identifying the boon involves acknowledging these changes and understanding their value in your life.

Reflection is crucial to recognizing the boon of your adventure. Take time to think about your experiences, the challenges you’ve faced, and the growth you’ve achieved. Journaling or discussions with trusted friends can help you gain clarity on what you’ve learned and how you’ve changed.

Did you learn something new? Try to implement one take-away within 48 hours of returning home. The boon can fade very quickly after you return home so make sure to practice or try out the new behavior within the first few hours back home and take action!

Blind to Our Strengths

“We are not just blind to our weaknesses, we are also blind to our strengths.”

-Adam Grant

I have been working with clients on defining and owning strengths for almost 20 years and I can tell you that almost all of my clients are initially blind and often dismissive of their strengths. On the path of self-discovery and growth, we often notice our weaknesses and focus on where we fall short. We tend to ignore our strengths; the qualities that define us, shape our actions and contribute most to our success remain hidden in plain sight. 

Why are we blind to our strengths?

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Activate Your Network

Individuals who are looking for a new job or professional path frequently make the error of reaching out to their network too soon. Prior to making the first contact with your network, it is important to have a vision that is clear or at least a vague idea of what you are looking for. Once you are clear on your goals, your network will help you get there. 

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Seeking Growth through Career Transitions

Almost 50% of people in the workforce today are actively seeking a career change. This is a staggering number and represents our collective values to strive for more money, meaning and flexibility in our work. I believe that people seeking career transitions are also seeking personal growth. Transitioning to a new role, organization, industry or profession can be a powerful catalyst for personal and professional growth. Here are a few areas of potential growth through career transitions: 

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Do you want to take a risk?

Having a social safety network can help

Taking risks increases activity through our neural pathways and allows us to see from a different perspective while experiencing a new environment, sensation, and way of being in the world. This exposure can serve as a rich source of inspiration for creative thinking and future planning.

To take risks, it helps to have a safety net; knowing that we have people to rely on gives us the resilience to get out there. Interestingly, studies show that risk taking is positively correlated to prosocial behavior. So as we try new activities, behaviors, and environments, we become more other-focused and act more to benefit others. Conversely, as we hold ourselves back from activities and actions, we become less social and less apt to help others/seek help from others. It is a loop which leads further into loneliness.

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Success on your terms

One of the topics that I often touch upon with coaching clients is what success looks like. For many that I coach, success is deeply personal and meaningfully aligns with their values and strengths. Their pathway to success is not a linear journey; it is filled with peaks, troughs and detours which teach you something new about yourself and your path, helping you refine your definition of success. 

Achieving this kind of success often requires walking away from a seemingly safe path to wander in the dark for a while. It requires being vulnerable and putting yourself out there. It will probably include some “failure.” It requires getting to know yourself to be able to define your terms. This self-knowledge is the foundation upon which your unique definition of success is built.

Here are some good questions to ask yourself:

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How to Own Your Ask

Have you ever asked for something and heard nothing back?  Are you getting tired of asking and hearing nothing but crickets?  It may be because you are not really asking for what you need. On balance, people like to help one another. Helping someone else actually boosts your own happiness. So, if all this helping is good for us, why do we sometimes not receive what we are asking for?

When you are asking and not receiving a response, take a look at the question you asked.  Are you calling out an action?  Are you giving a deadline?  Is your voice authentic?

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Protect Your Creative Brain Space

7 tips to enhance Creativity!

Protecting your creative time is essential for personal growth and overall well-being. Several studies have shown that creative hobbies, such as art, writing and music, can reduce and even prevent stress. Often, when you are engaged in a creative endeavor, you are able to enter a flow state. This happens when you’re completely focused on a task, to the point where you think less about things that are worrying you. Being this absorbed can be rewarding and enjoyable – your brain is flooded with dopamine, that feel-good chemical that actually helps motivate you toward similar behavior.

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Ready for your Next Chapter?

Transitions mark the turning points of our life chapters and shape the course of our lives. Whether we are changing careers, moving to a new city, enrolling in a course of study, beginning or ending a relationship, or simply navigating the ebb and flow of life, transitions are opportunities for growth and self-discovery and allow us to craft the next chapter of our lives with confidence and purpose. As a coach, recognizing the potential for growth during these times can be the foundation for assisting others in their journey.

In this Next Chapter Coaching Package, we will reflect on past chapters to uncover valuable insights and discuss practical strategies to embrace change and uncertainty with grace. Together, we will uncover the keys to fostering resilience, building a supportive network, and setting a clear path towards our desired next chapter!

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